I haven’t made a New Year’s resolution for longer than I can remember, personally for me I don’t see the point. I’m a serial procrastinator and chances are I would have reneged on my resolution way before the end of January.
Now that being said, it’s not that I’m against them, if you want to make a resolution, even if you don’t stick to it as long as it makes you happy and gives you something to work towards more power to you, however for me I’m firmly in the camp of “New Year, same me”
Or so I thought…..
I like to think of myself as a fairly laid back guy but I do tend to let things get to me way more than they should, It’s happened most of my adult life, something can happen, no matter how insignificant it may seem to everyone else and I just lose it.
Now I want to say right here that when I say “lose it” I’m not talking about being aggressive, I’m a lover not a fighter, trust me, I think I have had about 2 fights in my entire life. What I do mean, however, is that I have a little (read – slightly massive) rant and then that’s me gone, sometimes for the rest of the day.
Once something gets to me I just can’t shake it it’s almost like I get tunnel vision and I really struggle to break out of the negativity. This has ruined more days out and time with my loved ones than I care to remember.
I’m not happy about this and now I’m a father I’m acutely aware that now more than ever is the time I need to look to change my mind set and teach myself to deal with things differently.
The lightbulb moment
My lightbulb moment actually came from watching the Instagram stories of David from DadvWorld. For those of you who don’t know him check him out, he’s a Blogger/Vlogger/Instagrammer/Tweeter and everything else social media related-er.
David is quite prolific on Instagram and for a while now in his stories he has been talking about positivity and how he has been changing the way he looks at things and trying to be all round more positive. The lightbulb really flicked on for me a few weeks before Christmas.
In one of his stories he had been in the car with his family and one of the kids had made an off the cuff comment which got to him, he spoke quite a bit about how in the past that would have written off his whole day but now, although upsetting, he was able to move on from it and let it go. Rather than allow it to consume his whole day he focussed on being positive and had a great day with his family.
This really struck a chord with me because I was sitting there watching his story and thinking, that’s so me, if that was me I would have been in a foul mood the rest of the day and ruined any plans I had. I sat there and thought, if he can do it why the hell can’t I?
For me it’s about recognising the signs, I know the sort of things that will annoy me and push me over the edge and it’s about being aware of that before I’m past the point of no return and you know what? It’s actually working.
A few times over the Christmas period things have happened that I would normally stress me out but I’ve been able to stop, take a breath, acknowledge it and move on and have a great rest of the day.
**Full disclosure here – there was also that little incident on Christmas Eve when I nearly ruined my buffet because I threw my toys out of the pram over something stupid!
Moving forward not just for this year but for 2018 and beyond it’s all about positivity, I’ve been trying to rid my life of negativity as much as I can and focus on the positives wherever possible.
In the few weeks since my lightbulb moment I have found that in most cases no matter how negative I’ve been able to take some sort of positive out of it, even if that positive is merely lesson learned for next time!
I am going to fail, I am going to lose my cool and I will slip into negative thoughts, we are all human and no one is perfect, but I will continue to make the effort and hopefully reap the benefits of a more positive life.
My family mean the world to me and I want to be the best husband and father I can be. Being positive is not just for me, it’s also for them.
I’m still not making resolutions so don’t expect me to declare one here and now, however, I am open to try and change
So not so much “New Year, New Me”
More like “New Year, Same Me……Different outlook!”